13 January 2011
Teaching a little boy to be a gentleman
Is it even possible? Maybe my son and daughter are too close in age for him to see her as anything but a punching bag and occasional playmate. He is older and bigger and faster and stronger, and he doesn't see why he should allow her to, say, go to the bathroom first. Being so close in age, the competitive feel is there. If one decides to play with a certain toy, the other will try to get there faster. That's just the nature of siblings, but I would like to at least practice some manners here and there, and we have a built in lady in training to practice on.
He has been introduced to and has expressed his disagreement with the "girls first" rule. In his mind, if he is faster, he is first. This goes beyond his sister. I have watched in horror as he, rather than wait for someone to cross his path, will cut right in front of another person, causing them to stop or nearly trip. It really bugs me when he does that to older ladies.
Today, the other little boy that usually rides to kindergarten with us was gone, so I was able to hear everything my son was saying and doing to the little girl that we pick up. She's a sweet, sort of shy girl, but that doesn't keep my little man from carrying on a conversation with her, one sided or not. Today, he made her climb over the top of him to get to her seat, then gleefully showed her how he can talk in a way that sounds like he's burping. They climbed out of the van, him leaving her to close the door, and ran up the sidewalk to the school. I thought he was going to pull it out, as he swung the door open, and the girl was running up the sidewalk, but then he went inside and let the door slam in her face. And somehow he manages to have girlfriends already?
I realize that this will be an uphill battle right up to the time that some other woman takes him off my hands, but I think it's one that needs fighting. We'll be discussing and practicing how to be a gentleman starting tonight and ending when I die, probably. Any advice on this is appreciated.